Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Sticks and Stones

(Holy blog overload tonight, no?)

I have learned that you can never take back something you say. It's out there. Forever.

I learned this after my big brother found me. My bio-dad said some pretty hurtful things, along with a nice long nasty e-mail from my step-mother. They can never take what they said back, ever. I will always remember, not in a I'm-going-to-be-a-brat-and-not-talk-to-you-because-of-what-you-said kind of way, but more like a if-that-is-truly-how-you-feel-about-your-daughter-then-I'm-better-off-without-you kind of way.

I try to not say things to people that I would ever regret. I realized after going through what I did with my parents that words are more hurtful than some people could ever imagine. Words said out of anger are normally the worst, because I think most times they are meant to intentionally hurt the other person.

I had a little reminder the other day about how much words can hurt. Words were thrown out in anger to try to manipulate me, and it literally made me sick to my stomach. So I'm calling b.s. on the whole 'sticks and stone can break my bones, but words can never hurt me' phrase! While I don't let most anger fueled comments bother me, there are a select few of my close family and friends that I very much value their opinion and when they throw out some hurtful remarks I can't help but to be upset.

I know how words can get thrown around in the heat of the moment, and maybe it wasn't said on purpose but the fact remains, it was said and it can never be taken back. If I can learn anything from this, I hope it's that I am more mindful of the things I say when I'm in the heat of the moment.

And because I already did a post tonight sans picture, I feel I must include one here!

1 comment:

  1. i just want to say that you are an awesome mother and cousin. i'm proud of you!


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